For me, I tend to notice people who espect an essay while I'm multitasking on my phone. Even my typos being pointed out make me roll my eyes.

But, your first example I would like to point out can make people say something they didn't intend to by attempting to elaborate on a topic they aren't at expert level. That's the big Red Flag to me. This IS NOT the same as disagreeing with someone.

The Arlington, VA home bomber is a great example. The man didn't have the technical vocabulary to say, " WFH didn't use the correct privacy, or security protocols. This left people vulnerable on their home network". He tried, and his point was clear to myself, and another I read his words aloud to. But, he was clearly speaking on a topic he had only a brief understanding, and used the word, " DNA" with some rambling that was used to call him names.

If anyone that reads this can post that article, ty. That's exactly what the first example it attempting to do to you. This is entirely different than us arguing between ourselves, it's malicious.