Well....it doesn't sound like you're well thought out on Christian theology....that's ok....everyone who proclaims Christ was a non-believer at some time. To believe in Jesus you must believe in the same things he believed in and the things he taught. It really is quite easy because Jesus is awesome.....and he was people call a man's man......A carpenter, fisherman, healer, and he walked everywhere and fasted for 40 days. He stood up to the devil and his schemes and won. He threw the money changers out of the temple...and he didn't mince words....He called the Pharisees a generation of vipers.....It's hard for me to understand why someone wouldn't believe in Jesus. I don't blame anyone for being confused however. The media spreads a lot of misinformation. A lot of things are confusing if you don't study up on it....not many people know how airplanes work or computers...yet we put aside our ignorance to take a trip. But logically everyone tries to justify what they do; often by blaming someone else. Satan always blames God and people influenced by satan is no exception. It really is a lame excuse...it's often uttered as they're being carted off to jail or right before they kill themselves. However you are right on one point however ; I have heard people say things like "God put us together" or "God spoke to me". I think they're for the most part are being disingenuous or sometimes manipulative. Maybe they have strong feelings IDK. It's the evoking the higher authority argument.....quite common..... In the Bible only a few people talked directly with God and each time God left a mark....Paul was knocked off his horse and went blind for a few days. Moses head turned white, Zacharias went mute until John the Baptist was born because he doubted the angel Gabriel.....The point being is that if God speaks to someone it's typically through his word, the Bible. If someone has strong feelings then they should be able to pinpoint the the theological argument in the Bible....