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As a woman that filed for divorce because I married too young, to a man that I didn't even like as a person by the time I realized a was a married single mother, I would like to tell you. I visited my grandparents. They have fought my entire life. I walked out the door and decided then and there I was filing for divorce. I did it the very next day. My grandmother who is still married to my grandfather told me she was very proud of me. Statistics don't allow you to feel the emotion that people live while they're just a number. I was married to a man that refused to be a house husband, but was not legally allowed to work in this country. While I actively made more than him, and he sabotaged me consistantly.
I learned the term starter marriage in therapy.
I'm out of practice, but there's also a thought of feminism that considered being lesbian the purest form. It was an older one. Mistakes have definitely been made, and I've read articles that are very convincing about intentionally getting half the population into the workforce.
Femism with all its baggage is still the word for not being a damsel in distress.
this is my last post about feminism because I dont really care to continue.
you werent too young, you were too naive and valued nothing about your marriage. it was meaningless to you, you didnt believe it had any value, and as I said, the state ensured you were protected and incentivized for divorcing, not for staying in your marriage.... which im sure you would have tried harder if there wasnt that state sponsored bail out. Im not saying men are blameless either, but you did initiate, assuming you did a cost benefit analysis, and determined divorce was the better deal, or at least wouldnt leave you stranded. And you never stated why you divorced your husband [but I can guess: every woman will claim their ex was an abusive jerk and the women could have done nothing differently themselves].
and that is the problem that there is a benevolent term for it
[rhetorical] how is projecting your lack of trust in every man, keeping one foot out the door and keeping your finances separate because of it not a damsel in distress? its constant distress.
Feminism teaches impressionable women that they were slaves to their husbands for for all of history for whatever unfathomable reasons I dont understand. Their husbands are literally subsidizing their lifestyle, mothers arent out in the street. They state that no women worked before the 60s or 90s or whatever wave of feminism would have you believe. And it teaches them that their career is the most important thing in their lives, which is sad because not even men try to sell that kind of BS to other men, but feminist women eat it up. Its called liberating and empowering.
Im sorry you have been hoodwinked by marxist propaganda and I hope you snap out of it and dont become one of those barren 40 year old women who is bitter about everything.
TIL 18 isn't too young for marriage.
And, you're wrong. The only reason I stayed married as long as I did is because people I respected told me marriage is work, and I would suck it up. You have a preconceived notion that I tried to break with very personal details, but I can see that you are firm in your beliefs.
You've also made assumptions about me that I've made comments that prove aren't true. Comments like, "I didn't like who I was when I was with him", " He wasn't just no good, he was no good for me"," I was young and dumb". But, what you didn't understand was that I came from a family that drilled into my parents that the kids came first. When I had kids, it was my turn to hear it. And, divorce was part of putting my kids first. I understand that you don't agree.
You've also made another error with your assumptions, or maybe my honesty confused you. I was raised by a single man, and I have a stepfather that loves me like his own. My ex husband didn't meet my standards because I was raised with shining examples.
It's my opinion that you're the one that needs to snap out of it. Because you had a chance to ask questions, but you chose to tell me about myself instead. Being a stay at home parent may be a different type of work, but it's still work. Case in point how much would it cost to hire people to do the jobs the stay at home parents does?
Btw. I have raised two grown men that identify as men, and have a preferance for women. Every single bit of fan fiction you've made up about me is wrong.