Grandma and grandpa teach the kids while mom tends them and dad works to sustain. That is passed down along with all other gains and this becomes a LEGACY that allows independence from a controller.

Note how certain families make their children into power-players on a board, each representing a 'need' of the built dynasty. The covens reflect this in recruitment of lawyers, doctors, policemen, etc. to form a sovereign independent base.

Your clan vs their plan for the Klan.