The more you grow; the more you comprehend that you are choosing to do it for yourself. It took me nearly a decade to allow myself to question the laws of nature without the religious connotation attached to them, and once it clicked I had nobody to blame but myself for choosing to ignore what I perceived all along.

Same with praising others...they always were both inspiration and temptation for my responding choice; but I lacked the comprehension about that. Instead I was stuck reasoning about the true vs false; agreement vs disagreement etc. of whatever they said. I had to cherry-pick individual beliefs until I was ready to question the foundation of believing (consent to suggestion). Once I comprehended that; all the other beliefs fell away; while opening up memory (mind) usage.

Whenever I grow more comprehension I asked myself...who can I blame for not comprehending this sooner or who can I praise for finally getting it? It's oneself; it always was. Other choices are an expression of the same source of balance for each one of us. Choice responding to balance represents an individual response-ability. This is also why we have such problems communicating...agreement vs disagreement among choices isn't communication; only choice responding to balance (resonance) implies communication; while ignoring it for choice vs choice conflicts represents imbalance (dissonance).