My point is do the words themselves help us see the reflections on the wall, or do experiences?

Yes and no. Words are structural patterns for (limited to words capabilities) sharing of experiences. Shallow definition but

You can read the same book, but everyone is going to have a different conclusion based on the experiences they have personally had.

Individual minds and personality is whole structure. Words and contacting with other people - through language or experience is trying to share some part of structures you have. Whole structure "written in" mind cannot be shared as a whole, only shared as part.

Sharing experience and knowledge (by words or other means) is something like writing word/sentence in already written sentence/book. With working intelligent auto-correct protecting integrity of sentence/book (mind and personality cohesion - and even despite of that we are more or less crazy/unstable,more or less inconsistent as individuals !).

Pros:

• We are different individuals not some one hive overmind. All of us matter,all of us are different - and it is evolutional advantage. (<-Compare evolutional level of species having 2 sexes to replicating "self-clonning" bacterias). And this is tip of icehole of advantages.

Cons:

• We have different experiences and we are deemed to not fully understand each other as we are different. Unity is impossible.Full understanding - very hard if possible. Had I wrote icehole ? Well as well it could sometimes sunk us...