How do some of the women have the strength and courage and drive that most men don't have
Because drive is a social game. A male has drive when he knows he can win something. So, most males chase excellence to get a social reward (access to better females, basically, if you darwinian reduce the motivation).
But since it's harder and harder to achieve excellence and secure reproduction, males are not motivated anymore.
Women, on the other hand, are neurotically motivated, because they need to select the weak males out, but most males are weak. So they have this drive that appears as big outside, but it's actually a perpetual desperation of their natural selection bias.
Because drive is a social game. A male has drive when he knows he can win something. So, most males chase excellence to get a social reward (access to better females, basically, if you darwinian reduce the motivation).
But since it's harder and harder to achieve excellence and secure reproduction, males are not motivated anymore.
Women, on the other hand, are neurotically motivated, because they need to select the weak males out, but most males are weak. So they have this drive that appears as big outside, but it's actually a perpetual desperation of their natural selection bias.