There is a sassy old gay and lesbian site called Datalounge that I read regularly for, believe it or not, its frequent great posts about old movies and other nostalgia. But the posts within that community are often alarming. The site skews older. Few gay men younger than 40 read it, and many are 60+.
They almost all despise the trans stuff being forced on their community and talk about it openly there.
But one of the more recent alarming posts I saw there last week was a survey about how many gay men’s early or first sexual experiences could be considered grooming and/or rape and a huge number of people went into nonchalant detail about creepy older men having brutal, unloving, rape or bordering on rape “initiatory” sexual encounters with them when they were teens.
Most of them over the haze of years had dismissed these encounters, but as discussion in the thread went on, you could see the lights go on with people where they started to admit they had been groomed by older gay men and raped, with no consideration for their pleasure, no intimacy, and with an unequal power dynamic of their groomer being much older.
If that community can only really admit how common this is decades later, how is anybody ever going to heal within the alphabet soup world? It’s a mess.
There is a sassy old gay and lesbian site called Datalounge that I read regularly for, believe it or not, its frequent great posts about old movies and other nostalgia. But the posts within that community are often alarming. The site skews older. Few gay men younger than 40 read it, and many are 60+.
They almost all despise the trans stuff being forced on their community and talk about it openly there.
But one of the more recent alarming posts I saw there last week was a survey about how many gay men’s early or first sexual experiences could be considered grooming and/or rape and a huge number of people went into nonchalant detail about creepy older men having brutal, unloving, rape or bordering on rape “initiatory” sexual encounters with them when they were teens.
Most of them over the haze of years had dismissed these encounters, but as discussion in the thread went on, you could see the lights go on with people where they started to admit they had been groomed by older gay men and raped, with no consideration for their pleasure, no intimacy, and with an unequal power dynamic of their groomer being much older.
If that community can only really admit how common this is decades later, how is anybody ever going to heal within the alphabet soup world? It’s a mess.