If you consider you are an eternal being, and this life is just a blip, then everything shifts. You chose yourself to come here, including what body you would get, your parents / family, and what general challenges you would be exposed to. Since we know so little about the other side, we are not able to see the true purpose, and if you did it would destroy the ability to experience and grow the way you planned to. "Life" here is not the true life, it's just an adventure and existence you have agreed to make because you wanted to and it should bring value to your spirit. If you chose a hard life, you are a very brave spirit that wanted to learn and grow with experiences that this unique life will present you.

If you consider you are an eternal being, and this life is just blip, then everything shifts. You chose yourself to come here, including what body you would get, your parents / family, and what general challenges you would be exposed to. Since we know so little about the other side, we are not able to see the true purpose, and if you did it would destroy the ability to experience and grow the way you planned to. "Life" here is not the true life, it's just an adventure and existence you have agreed to make because you wanted to and it should bring value to your spirit. If you chose a hard life, you are a very brave spirit that wanted to learn and grow with experiences that this unique life will present you.