I'm sorry for your loss and confusion. Literally nothing brings out the shills and haters like Catholic posts. That why there is some truth to it.

If it helps, you are not alone https://www.fromrome.info/2019/11/26/an-index-to-pope-benedicts-renunciation/

tldr, Benedict remained the Pope, having the Spiritual Munus. He only resigned the ministerium (daily administration). This is all accurate according to Canon Law 332.2 which says the Pope must renounce the munus. And that it must be freely given. Since he was manipulated by the Lavendar Madia and the big banks, it wasn't freely done.

And this will clarify things - the secret of St Malachy's Prophecy https://archive.is/UrcjY

The Prophecies of St Malachy have come to an end. A millennium of supposedly divine foresight has reached its conclusion. And yet there is an inescapable problem that needs to be reconciled, a stumbling block that has not yet been contextualized by the staunchest believers of Malachys supposed prophecy. Petrus Romanus. This last figure, which should equate to Bergoglio, quite simply has no resonance. I humbly assert that I have worked it out. Let me explain. Let me take you on a journey, a journey encompassing medieval prophecy, baroque controversy, sedevacantist contention, and eschatological finality.

This jesuits claim of the prophesies inauthenticity have marred the documents memory to this day. However, after personal investigation Ive come to the conclusion that this series of prophecies are inexplicably applicable to pontiffs elected half a millennium after the supposed forgery. I will now supply some of the most damning evidence. I will only refer to apt prophecies after 1590, the date of the supposed forgery. You can come to your own conclusions.

“In the final persecution of the Holy Roman Church there will reign Peter the Roman, who will feed his flock among many tribulations; after which the seven-hilled city will be destroyed, and the dreadful Judge will judge the people: The end.” It has long been interpreted that this final passage refers to the final pope, this Peter the Roman, who will preside over the church in the last days of the eschaton.

Here is what I assert: Each Papal prophesy is a short and ambiguous line, until this last, referring to Petrus Romanus. It is a final statement, not a reference to a tangible Pontiff like the other lines. As anyone knows who has been following the secret of Ratzingers “renuncio,” Benedict relinquished the Ministerium but not the Munus. Ratzinger is still pope, Bergoglio is not. This is why all the failed attempts to associate Franics with Petrus Romanus are in vein.

Through my reading of the prophecy, Benedict XVI, Gloria Olivae, is the last true Pope of Rome. “In the final persecution of the Holy Roman Church there will reign Peter the Roman, who will feed his flock among many tribulations; after which the seven-hilled city will be destroyed, and the dreadful Judge will judge the people: The end.”

Petrus Romanus does not refer to a final Pope, it references the original latin, “The Rock of Rome,” St Peter. In the final persecution, during this forlorn era of faux Cephas,’ the faithful will only be fed by the spirit of St Peter himself. We are in the true period of Sedevacante. Until the consummation of the age, we shall be without Shepard, except for he whose bones rest below Berninis baldachin. This is the secret to Malachys final prophecy. Benedict XVI was the last pope, now all we have is the first.