most of your examples aren't contradictory, though.

maybe there is no 'purpose' to life, and it is all 'illusion'.

but even then, the illusion is persistent, and if life on earth is an opportunity to expand your being and improve your experience, you might call that the 'purpose' of this life.

if attempting to resolve these discrepancies in communication makes you uncomfortable, isn't abandoning the research your own act of confirmation bias? not to mention claiming that you 'write your own gospel'?

jk, idc, go work for snopes