All the psycho lefties who realized after kirk's shooting that they too have been having Robinson style chats that might be compromised by discord went to STOAT, which had to rebrand from their name "revolt" shortly after.
Matrix is another alternative either through API bridges or through element, their straight up discord replacement.
The only hurdle you'd have is getting your friends to also get on board, which shouldn't be too hard considering your friends should also be the ones hesitant to upload their ID to random internet jews.
Otherwise, just don't enable any age-restrictions on your server or even locally host one on a vpn, and it's like nothing ever happened, as far as I can tell, for now.