I don't hate you because you're a woman, nor do I hate you,

You are being too kind and understanding to someone who probably would not return the favor. From her point of view, you criticizing her = bad.

it's just that you're in a position you shouldn't be in, because your feminine nature gets in the way of the responsibilities necessary here, which is leading to severe mistakes in how you're carrying out those responsibilities.

Ave, true to caesar. This woman is gonna be bad for this forum.